The mirror of ourselves
The other person who you are putting all of your rage on is yourself at some level. That someone has echo’d in me something that I have not dealt with, that other has an aspect of myself and I don’t want to know about it so I project it onto someone else and say that person is no good and am going to do everything I can to get rid of that person. That person is also us. So when we get rid of somebody we think is to blame we destroy a bit of ourselves.
The paradox
Forgiveness is a paradox, as you give up your anger to the one you believe does not deserve it, you are the one who is psychologically healed. When a person forgives they are giving a gift of mercy to the other person. The paradox is that you experience emotional, psychological and spiritual healing.
The puppet
Forgiveness allows us to let go of the pain in the memory, we can still have the memory but it doesn’t control us. When memory controls us we are the puppets of the past.
The gift of compassion
Forgiveness is not possible until compassion is born in your heart. Even if you want to forgive, you cannot without compassion. You really have to work at it every day, when you wake up the emotions are there and you must call upon compassion to forgive.
People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. Forgive them and free yourself from emotional bondage.
