Where's the Fairy Tale?

It is not often in life that we interact with people who live from a place of mean, angry, self-righteous entitlement.  But in those instances when we do, we have to stop and determine how we are going to respond to them.  We may think we know what is causing their detrimental behavior, but we have to take a step back and decide how to help them understand what they are doing.  We have to show them how to see themselves from objectivity and help them view that what they are projecting out into the world is destructive to everyone, especially themselves.  We have to rise above their selfishness, step away from their desperation and protect ourselves from their fear. 

Living and operating from a place of condemnation, blame, and anger only creates a dirty trail of resentment and heartache.  How easy it is to slip into that mode, it is almost attractive, as entitlement, especially via conflict, can provide a sense of power and self-satisfaction.  But to live in that place of self righteous negativity has dark repercussions.

Those who live from their entitlement quickly become addicted to their pain, their hurt, their anger, and they become severed from the reality of their lives and themselves.  As they become more comfortable in their discomfort they continue to spread hostility that infiltrates their external and internal space.  Everything in their lives becomes discolored by their hardened hearts and their closed-off minds and they are weakened.  Entitlement chips away at their sanity, their well-being, and tears their lives apart.  To interact with people who operate from this place inside themselves is painful and draining.  It is almost easy to feel sorry for them. 

How do we help others relinquish the fear that drives the entitlement?  How do we help them let go of the desperate anger and the blame that feeds the self righteousness?  How do we ask them to recognize the deep detriment that ensues from these behaviors?   We must ask them to answer some hard questions about themselves and why they feel they are owed what they feel entitled to, clinging to their belief in what “should have been.”  We must remind them that entitlement makes them smaller, and their real power lies in finding compassion and gratitude. 

We must help them see who they would be without these harmful and unhealthy qualities.   Free from their self-imposed injustices, able to breathe easily and peacefully.  Free from deprecation, able to live joyfully, openly and receptively.  Free.